There are a lot of ways that abuse can happen, and this is a good list of many (if not most) of the signs and various presentations. If you connect to any of these behaviors, whether you are the one doing them, or you are the one experiencing them, it’s probably good to step back and take stock. No one should treat another person like this.
I wish it hadn’t taken me so long to realize what was going on. In some ways, I wonder if my Ex hadn’t escalated so rapidly, if I would still be there.